Monday, January 26, 2009

To All My Friends Out There

There was a boy, a very hard to please. His father gave him a bag full of nails and said: "Hit a nail onto the garden's fence whenever you lose your temper or disagree with someone".

On the first day, the boy put 37 nail on the garden fence. A week passed and the boy learned how to control his temper and the number of nails added per day was declining. The boy now knows that watching his attitude and having everything under control is easier than using the hammer and hitting nails on the fence.

Gradually, the day has come and the boy told his father he never had to add a nail that day. The father asked the boy to remove a nail from the fence for each day that passes without losing his temper. Finally, the boy was able to come to his father and tell him that he removed all the nails.

The father took his son to the fence and said: "Dear son, you did great with your good behavior, but look at these holes left on the fence. The fence will never look as it was before!"

When you disagree with someone and an argument takes place, or when differences come to surface; some harsh words are said. These words leave people with deep wounds just like these nail holes you see on the fence. You can stab someone and pull out the knife from the body but you may leave a scar of a wound.

It doesn't matter how many times you said you're sorry because that wound still exist. Injuries of harsh words are more painful than physical injuries.

Friends are rare jewels, they are there to cheer you up and be there for you whenever you need them. They are always there to listen whenever you feel to open up. Therefore, show them what you feel for them.

That's all for now
Thanks for being my friend



Blogger Touta said... could just hammer the nails into said annoying person...
kidding, this was one of the most beautiful posts I've read.

1/26/2009 8:23 PM  
Blogger attawie said...

Or ... we still can hammer those people who annoy us :D

Glad you liked it touta :)

1/26/2009 8:34 PM  
Blogger C.H. said...


That was so really made me think about current situations :D

I am going to think of that the next time that I feel upset about anything ;)

Thanks for a great post.

1/27/2009 12:34 AM  
Blogger khalid jarrar said...

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1/27/2009 4:00 AM  
Blogger khalid jarrar said...

Great post, its funny i just heard that story yesterday or the day before!!!

Its a small world :)

1/27/2009 4:01 AM  
Blogger David said...

I have never heard that story before. I am somewhat confused by the end of the story. The father told the boy to drive nails into the fence. Then he told the boy to pull the nails out. Lastly, he yelled at the boy for leaving holes in the fence. Did I misunderstand? Was the father angry at the end, or was he trying to teach a lesson?

I agree with you that harsh words can really hurt people. They can especially hurt if they come from someone that we love and trust. In my lifetime, I have known the pain of receiving harsh words, but I have also been guilty of saying harsh words to others. I think that realizing that harsh words can really hurt someone else is the first step toward trying not to do it again.

I think that rare jewels is a good metaphor for friends. I have always placed great value on friendships. They have been the only real treasure of my life.

1/27/2009 11:49 AM  
Blogger attawie said...


You're welcomed :)

I guess it was a good idea to translate the email and post it here rather than forward the email :D

Small world and common mailing list :P

No yelling :)
The father lectured his son and the lesson is a metaphoric one "the nail holes on the wall resemble scars or harsh words" or something like that :)

This is an Arabic verse which means: I've never regretted my silence, not even once, But regretted my speech again and again.

Or something like that :)

1/27/2009 1:04 PM  
Blogger The Iraqi Violet said...

Hello Attawi
Very nice Post,
our differences SHOULD NOT affect our behaviour and make us lose our dear people:).

1/30/2009 5:26 PM  
Blogger attawie said...

Iraqi Violet :)

Thank yo and welcome here :)

I agree with you but it seems that not everyone is able to look beyond differences and restrict themselves to mutual respect no matter what.

1/30/2009 7:19 PM  
Anonymous Hwa Rang said...

It touchs the soul.

2/02/2009 3:21 AM  

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